Problems w/ hubby after baby?

our baby is almost 9 weeks now. during labor, delivery and the week after (our baby was sick in the hospital, causing a lot of stress for us) my husband was so supportive. but then we got home, he had to go back to work. i was up all hours of the night, still adjusting to life w/ a baby, hormonal, etc. we started fighting seems about everything since. bickering, crying, hateful comments, miscommunication...we talk about our fights afterward and apologize to eachother, but i get so annoyed with him sometimes and i make pive-aggressive comments. but i feel like i can't control it. mostly i feel like i try and tell him how to do stuff because i've figured out a way that works for me and baby and he doesn't want to do it my way or forgets to do important stuff (put top back on formula, buckle her into her bouncer seat, etc. anyone experienced this and have advice to give? he actually looked into marriage counceling today. of course my biggest fear is that he thinks i'm a b*tch and will